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13 Reasons This Anxious Mom Chose Homeschooling

13 Goods Reasons to home school

Yup! After reading this I am sure I will homeschool my children. So many great reasons to homeschool

And!!!! Reason number one! I’m anxious!! Ha!

Yes, I have a bit lot of experience with anxiety, but I don’t really believe that anxiety has anything to do with my choice to home-school (HS) — but who really knows why we make the choices we do? Actually — maybe I’m a little tiny bit anxious? There are THIRTEEN reasons… 13 … 🙂

 

Earlier this month I shared my top two reasons I want home-school my 4-year-old.

Today, I’m gonna spill every-single-reason I have for Homeschooling!

These are in no particular order.

13 Reasons We Will Try Homeschooling

1- Homeschooling will give us more time together. 

Instead of rushing off to school and being separated 8 plus hours a day, we will be able to spend our days learning, exploring, discovering and making memories together. This time is PRICELESS. Family, friends, ALL relationships are the only things we will take with us. Nothing is more important to me.

2- Y’all! He’s four years old.

Pre-K is not required. He’s 4! He can’t even wipe his butt properly. He’s a silly  sweet little boy! He is my baby and doesn’t need to have a full-time job just yet.

My tiger boy!

3- Children are unique learners.

Unfortunately, many schools and/or educators don’t see unique learning styles for what they are. Instead they are seen as problems, as something to be “corrected”.  The system’s way of “helping” our child/ren (who are individuals, I remind you) is to force them to fit molds that are considered acceptable and normal. Like puzzle pieces being forced into the wrong space, instead of having the patience to consider other options.

I see Ari (A) as unique learner.  If he’s anything like his dad (which he is 😉) he is definitely unique. Ha! My husband cannot think unless he is pacing. Ari is not one to sit still, the boy is energetic and definitely a sensory seeker!

4- Children ARE mistreated.

I don’t want my child to be one of those children. We entrust our children into the care of people we barely know and many auxiliary staff who we don’t know at all.

I’ve had personal experience working as an assistant to a pre-school teacher. This woman was an absolute angel to the parents. As soon as they turned the corner she became a witch. Actually, she reminds me of Ursula from The Little Mermaid! The way she spoke to those children… the way she intimidated them was the saddest thing I had ever seen at the time.

On another occasion, while working in one of the top public schools in Georgia. I saw a kindergarten teacher “jacking up” a 5-year-old. There’s no other way  to explain it. She grabbed the neck of his shirt and pulled him toward her. He was terrified. NO one wants their child to be subjected to that type of treatment.

We believe & hope our children will let us know if they are being mistreated. But often they do not. There was NO reason for a parent believe their child was being mistreated.  I know I can’t be with A every second of everyday. But, I want to be with him when I can. I know “they” say, “you can’t protect them from everything “.

Nevertheless, I’m his greatest advocate and I will do my best to protect him from what I can, until he’s able to do so for himself.

5- I’m able to. I actually want to.

I’m able to stay home with my children. It isn’t possible for everyone, AND not every mom WANTS to stay home. Also depending on personality types some parents aren’t able to homeschool because they just KNOW — they can’t be with their child all day. I get that!

When I was at the end of my pregnancy this past summer, I HAD to find a summer camp for A! I HAD too! 😜

6-I enjoy being with my children.

So much more than I expected! When Ari was younger I have THEEE best memories of play dates with friends and exploring with my little guy. He’s also my PPD baby. That has bonded us in a way I can’t even explain.

I don’t want to or have to lose the possibility of those experiences. He was recently on spring break and it was wonderful! We were able to visit old friends and do so many things together. It was like a long weekend. No set schedule or hard deadlines. I even lost track of the days!

7- Allows us (his parents) to have a greater influence on him for as long as possible.

When children are young their parents are their world. We as parents are their greatest influence.  As they get older, friends, media etc. tend to take over. I want to prolong my influence on A.

8- He deserves the opportunity to act his age!

To be a child, while he IS a child. He will have many years to enjoy the typical 9-5, sit still and be quite. Ever watch reality TV?! Maybe if those ladies had been given the opportunity to behave like children when they were children; they would be behaving like adults now???

9- I want an active role in A’s education.

I’ll go ahead and say, this is my fault. When A is in “school” I become passive. believing that he’s learning at school so I don’t have to be as vigilant at home. Not the most intelligent thought process.The moment I decided to home-school everything changed. Every moment and interaction with A became a “teachable moment”. I feel invigorated and purposeful!

10- We ALL home-school anyway!

Because…homework! After many hours at school he will eventually bring home more work! From what I hear and remember, LOTS of it. Which, I will have to make sure he completes correctly. Might as well do it all myself. 😏

11- I have Greg’s support.

Homeschooling is a family decision.

The best daddy

12-Money Money Money!$!$

Instead of paying for school and being separated, we will be affording more family experiences and making memories. Memberships to local attractions (Zoo, Aquarium, Children’s Museum, Botanical Gardens), local events and festivals, vacations, day trips, field trips, join Homeschool co-ops, sports, classes and the ability to support our foodie habit! (Seriously, the kid asks to go to a restaurant almost every day!)

13- I’m my child’s best teacher.

I don’t have the credentials to teach professionally and I’m far from being a genius.  BUT — NO ONE will invest more in my son than his mama! I want him to succeed more than anyone else and I’m willing to do whatever it takes. Who knows, one day that may mean changing things up and re-evaluating our educational path?


These are only some of the reasons we will be homeschooling. Of course I could add that children are killed in brick and mortar schools :(. These schools are not safe and secure. I’ve gone to schools and am buzzed in with no ID or questions asked.

Remember, what ever your reason whatever your choice. It is good enough. Each family has different perspectives, needs, goals and different children. My reasons don’t have to be yours. 🙂 

So, tell me. What are your reasons for or for not Homeschooling? 

See you soon!

Raivon

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HomeSchooling, Perspective & How To's

Don’t Want to Feel Like the Lone Cray Cray Homeschooling Mom? Find Your Peeps! {How I’m finding Mine}

This post may contain affiliate links.yes! yes! yes! Having a supportive community when homeschooling is imperitive! I'm so happy to have found my people!For me, Homeschooling (HSing) is not — was not, a simple choice. I mean, it’s kind of like I’m gambling with my child’s brain and future — right?

Now that HSing for our 4-year-old (next school year, 2017-18) is a serious consideration. There are many “what if’s” popping up.

What If:

  • He hates me
  • I ruin his life
  • He’s uneducated
  • Can’t get a diploma … a job … wife?
  • Becomes that stereotypical awkward homeschooled child
  • I’m not smarter than a pre-schooler

and the big one …. What if,

  • other moms think I’m a cray cray Homeschooling mom? Waaaah!😩 (yes I care what others think of me, that’s where the VAIN in Vain Mommy comes into play. If you know what I mean)

BUT THEN…..

I began to find my people. I was able to share my excitement and fears with other passionate moms, who are already confidently invested in their homeschooling journey.

Up until that point I felt like a foreigner in a foreign land. No one spoke my language. I barely spoke my language, this was all new for me!

Finding other moms like myself . THAT, is when I gained the confidence to move forward with our plans.

I was reassured that:

  • My child will hate me for something at some point regardless. And, there are many choices I have already made for my child because it’s what we as a family feel is best; ie. following Jesus, our diet, media choices, his bedtime, etc. etc. So why — would choosing how he’s educated any different?
  • He will probably think I ruined his life at some point, even if he attends public/private school
  • There many children that attend traditional school and are failing (many at no-fault of their own). There are entire failing schools.
  • He will get a diploma! Theres no one who will invested in my child’s future more than his own parent
  • If he’s “awkward” (which is a very subjective label) he’s gonna be awkward regardless. He will be, who he will be.
  • It’s just crazy to think you aren’t smart enough to teach your child. In the case I am not smarter than a preschooler, there are tutors.

Ari’s first crew 🙂

How I’m Finding My Support

MEETUP.COM is amazing. I’ve met almost ALL of my mommy friends through different stay-at-home-mom groups. When I was in the thick of Postpartum Depression and pretending I was ok, Meetup groups helped to pull me out of isolation. I even found a postpartum support group on meetup!

FACEBOOK GROUPS just enter “Homeschooling” into the search and you will find lots of HSing groups. Support groups, re-sale groups, different HSing philosophy groups. It’s all there and the ones I’ve found are pretty active. There are a several local groups as well that I’ve began to participate in.

Some of my people 🙂

LOCAL HOMESCHOOLING CO-OPs I reached out to my Facebook friends asking who homeschooled.  Many of those that responded recommended co-ops. Hubby and I are attending a “new to home-school” info session later this month. CO-OPs are great for socialization . One of my biggest concerns is keeping Ari social and allowing him to build relationships with others. I’ll share what we learn with you.

FACEBOOK POSTS I was surprised how many of my FB friends homeschooled. I wouldn’t have know if I hadn’t “asked”… and now those friends are apart of my crew. Whether they know it or not! lol

Some days I continue to have apprehensions, but having the support of others that get me, makes those days far and few between.

How did you find your people?

See ya later!

Raivon😘

Having a homeschool community and support is vital!

HomeSchooling, Perspective & How To's

We Made The TERRIFYING Decision to Home-School! Here’s Why.

Once upon a time, I was going to have 5 angelic children and home-school (HS) them all!

THEN I was pregnant and sick for 40 weeks straight.

THEN I was diagnosed with Postpartum depression and anxiety.

THEN I just knew I’d NEVER have another child.

THEN I was pregnant and sick again.

BUT the second time around my PPD was under control and really began to love being a mommy. Don’t get me wrong. I’ve always loved being a mom, but now my love is gentle and pure — not tainted by anxiety and obsession (if that makes any sense).

I’ve told my friends that if I EVER, say I wanted to home-school, STOP me! I know myself all to well. When I plan against something anything chances are it’s going to happen (ie. failed birth plans x 2).

Here I am STRONGLY considering homeschooling my 4-year-old son. I mean, we have taken him out of school before. Regardless, I really can’t believe it, but it’s going to happen.

So…why in the world would I want to home-school?

I’m not a crunchy mom, I planned to be but … no. I’m a Christian but that too, wasn’t a deciding factor.

Understand I have many reasons for HSing but these were my two deciding factors:

Mommy & Ari Looking at Ducks

1) I really love being with my child! Next year he will be in Pre-K (the perfect time to give homeschooling a try),
he’s four. He has gone to “pre-school” for a couple of years but at MOST 9 hours a week. And now all of a sudden he would be away for EIGHT, 8, OCHO hours a day! FIVE, 5, CINCO day a week?!

Uh…? No!

That would mean the my boy would spend more time with and being influenced by strangers each day than his very own family (I’m referring to the time he is awake). I guess I could sit by his bed all night with a flash light and stare at him?

 

I love our daily adventures. Experiencing the wonder in his eyes…  Different parks (so many parks!), splash pads, zoo, library story times, museums, gardens, creeks and play dates with our friends. Or just those cozy days at home.

Exploring the Creek

2) I’ve enjoyed witnessing his “firsts”, and I don’t want it to stop now. I am a stay at home mom, I’m available all day everyday for my children (with exception of date nights and mommy time) and I want to be there when something “clicks” for him! I want to be a part of that! 😕

No matter how wonderful the school district or how great the private school, the above wouldn’t change. There are many other reasons for wanting to HS, and I’ll share those as well. But these are my top two!

I am so very excited and very nervous. To me it’s a big, huge, gigantic decision, and I have my fears. But…Nevertheless I shall persist 😉.

Disclaimer: We may totally HATE HSing. I don’t know what’s to come. I am not holier than thou, believing that my way is the right and only way 🙂 

So, tell me! Are you considering HSing your child/ren? Have you already decided? What were your deciding factors.

See you later!

Raivon

Kissy Faces

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From PPD to PMDD: It Wasn’t All In My Head

Hi ALL it has been too long since I’ve stopped by to say hello! I’ve been training for the Cooper River Bridge Run in Charleston SC and that has taken pretty much all of my free time. On days when Ari is at school instead of blogging I’ve been out running — and making great progress if I might say so myself. 🙂

So HELLO!

We’ve got some heavy stuff to cover today so lets get to it.

You all may remember my joy when I announced that I beat postpartum depression (PPD)!  I was on cloud nine, ten AND eleven. I was feeling great and I mean really GREAT! I was able to discontinue Sertraline (generic of Zoloft) which is something I was unsure I’d be able to do, ever.

Of course the story doesn’t end there with a lovely “happily ever after”. If it did I’d be scared because that is NOT how my life works.

Enter Premenstrual Dysphoric Disorder (PMDD) Symptoms

After a month or so of feeling excellent I began feeling:

  • Lethargic
  • Asocial ( my doctor informed me that if I were anti-social I’d want to kill all of my friends. Thanks for the clarification Doc!)
  • Depressed wondering what’s the point of life
  • Sad and tearful
  • Hungry … very hungry ( I was so hungry I thought I was pregnant … FOR SURE )
  • Angry, rage-ful and easily irritated
  • I THOUGHT my marriage was doomed
  • Impatient with my son
  • Very down on myself – low self esteem
  • Body aches especially my upper back
  • Brain Fog – Spacey feeling – Zoned out (unable to hold a conversation)

My first thought was that I hadn’t beat PPD after all … that it was still there.

But what were these feelings of rage and anger… like punch the computer angry?

Of course I feared that I needed to jump back on the Sertraline wagon but, I decided to ride it out just in case it was my body needing to stabilize.

To my joy and excitement within about two weeks I eventually felt better.

But month after month those same symptoms would POP up and plague me and my family. My poor family. Again and again — and just as soon as they returned they would go away.

After looking closer at what I call  “HELL weeks” (usually two) they coincided perfectly with ovulation (or around day 14 of my cycle and the clouds began to part once my cycle started).

HELLO Pre-Menstrual Dysphoric Disorder (PMDD)

For my entire life, for as long as I can remember I have needed a nap. Some days more than others but I always felt tired, withdrawn and extremely fatigued. Sometimes so much that like I felt as if I couldn’t muster the energy to breathe.

Social events that at the time of scheduling I was super excited about, I’d end up dreading the thought of attending and often cancel. I would go shopping and even though I had a cart full of things I would leave without paying because I was just — that — tired. I wouldn’t go to the grocery store without DH because of anxiety that I took as being an introvert or maybe a touch of social anxiety. And here lately I’ve been an evil nasty short tempered little lady.

I’ve spent so much on tests thinking that I had an auto-immune disease or a thyroid problem. But all test were always negative and I was told I was in perfect health.

Looking Back…

The symptoms of PMDD began during ovulation — the two weeks before I got my first postpartum (PP) cycle at 19 months PP (thank you breastfeeding!). At that time I made an appointment to see my Psychiatrist because I thought I needed to increase my medication for PPD. It was increased and I felt better. But now I know that was actually the beginning of PMDD.

Treating PMDD

Since I stopped Sertraline I didn’t want to start it again without putting up a fight so tried the natural route:

  • Omega 3 (Flax seed oil)
  • B vitamins
  • 5-HTP (300 mg daily)
  • Calcium Zinc and Magnesium
  • D3 (10000 ius daily)
  • Maca Powder

Although it is MUCH more affordable to go the pharmaceutical route. 8 bucks a month!! I  do prefer natural alternatives … but then again whatever works??

… and for me that ended up being

ZOLOFT!

50 mg a day on days 1-13 of my cycle …  and 75 mg day 14-28. I still have some days that I am TIRED but nothing like before!

I now schedule myself around PMDD. As much as possible and respect my need for rest.

So!? What has been your experience with extreme PMS?

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VainMommy Review: HippoHopp Indoor Playground

Hippo Hopp indoor playground review

VainMommy Reviews are written with the busy mom in mind -- quick and easy to read so you can quickly make a decision and get going! I hope you enjoy!

As promised I am going to be dishing out some of our favorite kid-friendly places and activites in Atlanta.

So here we go.

You know the feeling, your kids children (sorry mom) are running amuck. It’s early, the weather sucks (in one way or another) and you Must. Get. Out of the house!!

Well, RUN to Hippo Hoppp!

Hippo Hopp is one of our favorite  indoor ‘playgrounds’ (maybe my favorite) located in Atlanta near Brookhaven/Buckhead GA. It serves as a perfect place for hot, cold and rainy days. Although, every other mom and caregiver may have the same idea and it can become rather crowed. Read More »

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Everyone Knows God Wants Us To be Vegetarian . . . Right?

reasons to be vegan

Let me start by saying . . . I am not a bible scholar, and If I’m wrong on something call me out on it. Nicely 🙂 Also, this is only food for thought. It’s not intended to make anyone feel bad about eating meat. If that were my intention then I wouldn’t be practicing Ahimsa (non-violence). Which is the reason I became vegetarian in the first place.

Ahimsa is having compassion for all living things. Ahimsa literally means not to injure or show cruelty to any creature or any person in any way whatsoever, including yourself: It means kindness, friendliness, and thoughtful consideration of other people and things. It also has to do with our duties and responsibilities too. Ahimsa implies that in every situation we should adopt a considerate attitude and do no harm.

With that said — lets get to it.

Have you been looking for a good solid reason to be vegetarian or vegan? There are so many reasons floating out there as to why it’s beneficial to cut the meat and even the cheese (pun intended) lol. Sorry.

There are two reasons that I will be vegetarian FOREVER, and hopefully ease over into Vegan-ism. To me, what makes the two following reasons so compelling is that I can’t squirrel around them or make excuses — it is . . . what it is. I like being feeling locked in to a decision . . . there’s no turning back, go figure.

Here I will share with you why we as a family have made to choice to be Vegetarian. Read More »

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