For me, Homeschooling (HSing) is not — was not, a simple choice. I mean, it’s kind of like I’m gambling with my child’s brain and future — right?
Now that HSing for our 4-year-old (next school year, 2017-18) is a serious consideration. There are many “what if’s” popping up.
- He hates me
- I ruin his life
- He’s uneducated
- Can’t get a diploma … a job … wife?
- Becomes that stereotypical awkward homeschooled child
- I’m not smarter than a pre-schooler
and the big one …. What if,
- other moms think I’m a cray cray Homeschooling mom? Waaaah!😩 (yes I care what others think of me, that’s where the VAIN in Vain Mommy comes into play. If you know what I mean)
I began to find my people. I was able to share my excitement and fears with other passionate moms, who are already confidently invested in their homeschooling journey.
Up until that point I felt like a foreigner in a foreign land. No one spoke my language. I barely spoke my language, this was all new for me!
Finding other moms like myself . THAT, is when I gained the confidence to move forward with our plans.
I was reassured that:
- My child will hate me for something at some point regardless. And, there are many choices I have already made for my child because it’s what we as a family feel is best; ie. following Jesus, our diet, media choices, his bedtime, etc. etc. So why — would choosing how he’s educated any different?
- He will probably think I ruined his life at some point, even if he attends public/private school
- There many children that attend traditional school and are failing (many at no-fault of their own). There are entire failing schools.
- He will get a diploma! Theres no one who will invested in my child’s future more than his own parent
- If he’s “awkward” (which is a very subjective label) he’s gonna be awkward regardless. He will be, who he will be.
- It’s just crazy to think you aren’t smart enough to teach your child. In the case I am not smarter than a preschooler, there are tutors.
How I’m Finding My Support
MEETUP.COM is amazing. I’ve met almost ALL of my mommy friends through different stay-at-home-mom groups. When I was in the thick of Postpartum Depression and pretending I was ok, Meetup groups helped to pull me out of isolation. I even found a postpartum support group on meetup!
FACEBOOK GROUPS just enter “Homeschooling” into the search and you will find lots of HSing groups. Support groups, re-sale groups, different HSing philosophy groups. It’s all there and the ones I’ve found are pretty active. There are a several local groups as well that I’ve began to participate in.
LOCAL HOMESCHOOLING CO-OPs I reached out to my Facebook friends asking who homeschooled. Many of those that responded recommended co-ops. Hubby and I are attending a “new to home-school” info session later this month. CO-OPs are great for socialization . One of my biggest concerns is keeping Ari social and allowing him to build relationships with others. I’ll share what we learn with you.
FACEBOOK POSTS I was surprised how many of my FB friends homeschooled. I wouldn’t have know if I hadn’t “asked”… and now those friends are apart of my crew. Whether they know it or not! lol
Some days I continue to have apprehensions, but having the support of others that get me, makes those days far and few between.
How did you find your people?
See ya later!